As we go through life we will inevitably face hardships and difficulties, I’m sure we can all agree on that. Regardless of how big or small they may be. Just this month I found myself facing some difficulties of my own. The burning question became are these major problems or minor ones, and just what dictates a major problem. As human beings we are all different, we have different anxieties and different levels of stress, and we could never really know the difference. This led me to consider that perhaps we often tend to overthink our issues and, in some cases, make it worse than it actually is.
Now please bear with me, I am not saying your problems are insignificant and are something you can or should simply get over quickly, what I’m getting at is to try to take the back seat and look at your issues from an outsider’s perspective. What advice would you give to a friend who came to you with the same problem? I’m quite certain that once you have analysed them you may just realize that maybe the problem isn’t that big, that you can indeed handle it and you might even just be blowing it out of proportion. After all they are your issues to deal with, and that you carry the weight of, so it is only natural that they can become a little overwhelming in at times.
When getting into the problem solving mode we need to take a step back and see where the problem stems from, lest it rear its ugly head once we have put to bed. Then we must realize that the more we dwell in the negativity of our problems, the greater they become to us. Lastly we can attempt to figure out the shortest possible way of solving these problems because the sooner you can solve them, the better for your health and sanity. If we can’t solve them right off the bat, let’s not be afraid to return to the root, reassess and tackle them again. We will only be stronger for it.
In closing, I want you to understand that even though we can solve most of our problems ourselves, we must never be shy to seek help if we can’t seem to deal with the issues on our own. Don’t ever be afraid to talk to someone that you feel you can confide in or trust. After all, there is always someone willing to help, there are professionals, and we just need to be brave enough to ask. In most cases you aren’t the only person suffering with a particular problem, it will be something someone has already dealt with, or is going through themselves. Help and guidance is readily available for those who seek it. It is important that you don’t allow your pain, reservations and downfalls to run your life. They are not worthy of your valuable time, they are holding you back. Your happiness and passion to succeed deserves all your attention, so resolves those issues and remove the barriers that stand in your path.
Whatever it may be that you are faced with know that there is help out there and that you are not alone, even if it may feel that way. There is always a way out of what you are going through and know that everything will be all right.
Until next time,