Well what do you know, you stop to wipe the shit out your eyes and all of a sudden you’re faced with a new year. I’m sure that you have a whole lot of new plans and ideas that you hope to fulfil.
But reality has struck, your leave is up, the year has fully commenced and it’s time to head back to work. However, you will remain adamant that you are going to achieve these goals: going to gym, eating healthy, starting new hobbies and the list goes on. I mean you are the King/Queen of the world right now and nothing is going to stand in your way. So you get the gym membership, join a book club blah blah blah!!
But as the days go by and reality starts to settle in we all know what happens. You begin to find that more and more your enthusiasm takes the back seat, you’re busy and everyone around you is to blame for your lack of achievement, they keep distracting you right? But really somehow you forgot that these ambitions and wants are solely yours. I don’t mean to rain on anyone’s parade but I’m guessing I’m right and as you reading this you probably telling me off in an internal monologue “how dare you insult me Wayne, you don’t know what my life is like, the pressures I have to deal with”. And I agree with you one hundred percent I don’t know what your life is like but hear me out for a second.
Everything we go through in life is either our own fault or our own gain. What we fail to realise is at the beginning of all of this, these were our ideas and goals. We set goals that we wanted out of life for ourselves, they are ours and ours alone, so how can you possibly blame your boss, working hours, lack of enthusiasm and laziness on others. What we should be doing when we realise we have failed at one of our resolutions is taking a step back to see where we might have gone wrong. Internalise and adjust.
Putting it bluntly we all have trials and tribulations, so I’ll excuse that excuse of ‘problems’, you won’t be the first or the last person on earth with problems the only difference is the severity of the problem and our ability to handle it which differs from person to person. You need to take a solid look at where you are and where you want to go in order to achieve what it is you would like to achieve. Honestly, I’m in the exact same boat in my personal life and I’ve decided to try a different approach, instead of tackling my goals head on I’m combing through the problems first and by problems I mean laziness, lack of motivation, lack of dedication, financial issues or whatever it may be. I’m asking myself, where did I go wrong.
I’m starting with the problem first and then working out a way of getting around it. Have you noticed a pattern, you tend to start your new year’s resolutions with a bang and then a couple of weeks later you’ve burnt out. I’ve realised that it’s not the lack of drive that kills us, instead it’s the lack of structure that kills us. I mean to say that I too have big goals and dreams for the future but I have learnt that I’m not going to achieve them by going in guns blazing, by doing this all I’m doing is setting myself up for is disaster as I have in the past. Instead I’m figuring out what’s slowing me down, putting that behind me and then progressing forward so that these issues don’t get in the way of my direction and flow. Believe me they can inhibit you in a big way, so I’ve learnt that by understand these problems you create the possibility for your journey to be much smoother and far more manageable and stress free as you tackle another year.
I want to wish you all the best for 2019. Stay humble, focused, excited, dedicated and true to your cause. By doing this you will make great strides and everything will take the shape that you want it to. Yes, you will be faced with hard times and many difficulties, but at the end of this year don’t you think that being triumphant in those circumstances will make you appreciate your achievements and hard work that much more.
Until next time,